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Are You the Asshole?

December 10, 2008

Every family has one — in my family it’s probably me.

In the spirit of the holiday season, and to help you determine if you are, in fact, the asshole, check out Gretchen Rubin’s blog article over at The Happiness Project.

The article includes a short quiz with excellent questions such as:

–When you join a group of people, does the mood often shift? Does a group tend to break apart after you join it?

–Do you find it hard to get your calls and emails returned?

–Do you often find yourself saying defensively, “It was just a joke!”

–Do you think it important to express your true feelings and views authentically, even if that means upsetting other people?

–Do you find that people seem resentful and angry when you offer objective, helpful criticism or advice?

–Do you find that even when you’re trying to be helpful by explaining something or providing information, people don’t want to seem to listen to you?

–Do you feel annoyed because people tend to refuse to acknowledge your greater experience or knowledge in an area, and instead, ignore your suggestions?

–Do people tend to gang up against you – when you’re arguing one side, everyone takes the other side, or when one person criticizes you, everyone else chimes in?

–If someone asks for your opinion, do you think it’s right to tell them frankly what you think?

–Do you think it’s useful to point out people’s mistakes, areas of incompetence, or previous track records of failure?

–Is it fairly common for one person to tell you that he or she will speak to a third person, so that you don’t have to? In other words, do people volunteer to act as intermediaries for you, rather than let you do your own talking?

Check it out now, and take the full quiz– you may be surprised to discover what everyone around you already knows.